Hello loves…this isn’t going to be a long post because I’m about to eat the yummy dinner I just made, but also because it doesn’t need to be.
Ok, so I’m kind of writing this based on something that just happened to me; I won’t go into detail because, well because of reasons but it was pretty much a case of seeing a friend after a while and them asking me why I haven’t changed and am still as excitable and loud as I was when I was younger…
I’m naturally pretty loud, as in my voice has base and my laugh is ridiculous…and I mean RIDICULOUS…and over the years I’ve had strangers, friends, colleagues and family telling me “You’re too loud!!”, “you need to change that laugh!”, “why do you talk about/eat food so much??”, and so often I’d feel bad, it would chip away at me and I’d end up apologising and trying to adjust myself to please everyone…but you know what? I’m tired of that. I really am. I’m so bored of trying to change myself to please other people, especially people that are supposed to just take me for who I am….And no, that doesn’t mean I’m going to run around the streets screaming, I don’t do that anyway; I know about context and I know how to carry myself in situations but if I’m around people that are supposed to make me feel safe and accepted, I can’t keep compromising myself any more. You shouldn’t either. Unless you’re an a*shole then maybe listen to those giving you guidance (no-one likes an a*shole) but if you’re not….if your friends/family/whoever are telling you you’re “too nerdy”, or “your style won’t get you a partner, you need to dress more like this”, or “why are you so quiet/loud/happy/weird?”, whatever they’re saying; don’t feel you have to change yourself to be accepted. As long as you’re not hurting anyone they should love you for who you are, and if they don’t, well the door is just behind you, take the elevator on the first left to the ground floor and follow the corridor till you see the sign that says “EXIT”, and then walk out my life. Thanks.
Let me know if anyone has told you to change something about yourself…how did it make you feel?